Lavish Iftar parties where half the food is wasted are unacceptable. Abolishing Iftar parties completely would mean depriving the Muslims (particularly the Muslim youth) the opportunity of getting together periodically, an important gesture of unity within the Ummah. Ramadan being the month of the Noble Quran, charitable spending according to one's financial means (however little that might be) and sharing food with the needy are important priorities. But the food we share with the needy or the food we put on the table during Iftar get-togethers with our sisters and brothers need not be sumptuous and costly. Just a simple menu like curry, bread, dates, fruits and coffee are enough. The purpose is not to please our taste buds. The purpose is to share, meet, talk, discuss the issues of our lives and our problems and get to know our brethren better. There is absolutely no need for a festive spirit, neither during our get-togethers nor at the end of Ramadan (Eid-al-Fitr). The hallmark of a truly Muslim event or party is simplicity and humility at all times. In Ramadan that's still more necessary.
Most sisters who carry the responsibility of cooking for their families end up spending too much time in the kitchen and too little time in the remembrance of Allah during the blessed month of Ramadan. Husbands, brothers and sons often become more demanding concerning food during Ramadan. They frequently invite their friends and extended families for Iftar at home. The burden invariably falls on the sisters who end up slogging in their kitchens for hours. Although our imams and scholars emphasize much upon spirituality for both brothers and sisters during their sermons and lectures, in Muslim homes Ramadan seems to be all about delicious food. There are some who fast only with the view of enjoying the goodies laid on the table during Iftar. Planning the Iftar menu for each evening and then getting busy to prepare it is the primary goal of most families. From morning to evening there is little for anyone to talk about other than food.